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Traffic police beat up man
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MSCW team puts heat on Nekhohat murder case
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Hate-leaflet concerns MP
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Corrigendum
Apropos to the news report appeared on the front page of May 17 issue of this daily under the caption, ‘Ukl takes up precautions’, ‘Mahasen Volcano’ must be read as ‘Mahasen Cyclone’. The oversight is deeply regretted. —Editor.....
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Prithviraj congratulates Bidyapati
NEW DELHI, May 17: Tourism and YAS Parliamentary Secretary Mairembam Prithviraj has congratulated Ningthoujam Bidyapati to get to the top of the world’s highest mountain today. In a congratulatory message, M Prithviraj said, “I am very happy to.....
Manipur Masala
By : Sanatombi Angomcha
The curious case of the missing housewives
Cases of domestic violence and crimes against married women have reportedly increased in recent times. In our society, most of the time, womenfolk play the dutiful role of scapegoats. They endure anything and everything to run their homes. Manipuri women have been generally glorified with many adjectives such as akhaang kanbi, thouna leibi, mapuroiba ningbi and so on.
Of late, there is an astonishing discovery related to the changing mindset and nature of Manipuri women. Some of the married women break all the social norms and elope away with guys of their own choice. It has infact become chajik news for us to find out reports in the paper such as ‘mou maangkhrey or chenkhrey or hanjillaktrey’. I was quite unaware about it until my sister cracked a joke about it. She told me, ‘Hujikaangi chatnabini, akhoi asomgi mou amasu mayum ahumlak paankhre’. I had found it hard to believe but I started believing. Welcome to Modern Manipur (At least it sounds so modern).
THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY
If I have to share my thought salad on this issue, I think it reflects two sides of the same society where we live. On one hand, it is a death blow to the age-old patriarchal norms set by the over-hardworking Manipuri men. These women dare to break the cocoon built by these male lots. They have, all in all, proved that the dominating attitude of male folks and their chauvinism are an 18th-century tale.
On the other hand, it can also be considered as a blot to the typical image of Manipuri women. For all these years, Manipuri women have been glorified as epitome of various virtues. History has witnessed how Manipuri women have been taking active participation in many sociopolitical and economical causes.
It is debatable, however, if these new range of women belong to the same category or not. We would not be astonished to find out that a married woman has eloped with another guy on a few grounds.
It would be understandable if the woman elopes away with another guy — if her husband does not provide a good life, treats her badly and is a master of domestic violence. Shockingly true but some married women deliberately do it even when their husbands provide a decent life and treat them well. Some of these women run away from nupamayum at the cost of ruining their own married life. Some of them even abandon their own kids; and then, endure or simply snub the wrath of our society’s wathi.
TOOLS IN THE MONKEY’S HAND
We do not probe much into the reason why this is trending so fast in our society. Don’t you think we have to discuss why this is happening in our society? Has technology got anything to do with it? The answer is yes. Technology is perhaps a responsible factor.
Let us be bold enough to admit that we do not have any sense of civilization but we make the best use of every technology that is available in the market. And that’s because we can easily afford it. For example, mobile phones of all brands have flooded the market. There is such a craze of mobile phones among us.
One does not have to bother if there is enough grocery at one’s home. But it is really important to recharge one’s mobile balance. It is really sad to acknowledge how the value of relationships has been compromised in our society. Simply put, the mobile phone is a product of the industrial society, but in our shanty town, it is like a tool in the monkey’s hand, so out of place.
MISSING HOUSEWIVES’ CLUB
For married ladies whose husbands are off to work (or off to date other unmarried girls) they want to occupy themselves with something interesting. A random missed call given to a random guy is a reason enough to spark an extramarital affair. No one has the shame and there is no feeling of guilt to indulge in illicit acts with their new-found boyfriends. All in all, they do not have any shame leaving their nupamayum just to elope with a different guy. The case of ‘mou maangkhrey’ is therefore nothing shocking if we can see our super-modern trend.
There is no remedial measure for this unwanted trend that is spreading so rampantly. One cannot blame the Manipuri government for such cases. In our state, even future teachers can block the highway and the government is accountable for it. It is responsible for every mess. Sigh! Our government is at least not responsible for the missing housewives.
priyobrata
keep on your writing,i like it.
smile
thats absolute truth, anyway the role they have played in their single youthful life is the key factor, old habbit die hard and that is why they want other guy even when they are having a faithfull husband
GD Ganchong
Men and women , both are responsible for this problem... Thier are good husband as wel as bad husbnd,, lik wise their are good wife as wel as bad one... If is a complicated topic...
Joyraj
Beautiful article which I always wanted to listen from someone like you! Was wondering when would you write about it. Wives around the country has mobiles,but we hardly hear such news. Why Manipur then!? Is it because gals in Manipur,these days,marry too early and by the time they really mature,they have babies and realised it was a mistake she married. Then runs away with the one whom she think is good,which she realised after gettin matured!? Parents are to be blame for early marriage as well. This is one solution,parents stop boasting about their kids gettin married at that young age, instead should stop it and make them realise thing. Now,regards the adultery I think it prevailed from ages in Manipur. Isn't it!? The song which I heard sung by Roshibina 'Borsaheb Ongbi Sanatombi'- Samlang khomgatlabini Eise,Mapu pallabini eise!...changshilla'o nakshita chinbiraro nachomse,kintha hallo chetla shambun sheh!! Don't call me a chauvinist,but Nupi thamoise... "Mou adum Mangtaba,mangbu Mangmande!!" Lols
Ito Veto
Really I respect this article. TOOLS IN THE MONKEY'S HAND " why this trending so fast in our society" All these things happened very long time ago in Europe (Victorian Era - values of social and sexual restraint). Nothing to be surprised, only what we have to do is how to handle it without giving any negative affect to our society. It is not only the technology but education too. We must change in the right direction, no one can stop it but should be able to guide it on an acceptable way. We should not be surprised when nightclub and bar were legally operated in the state in the future, it will come one day. Simple example when girls started to wear jean and mini skirt for the first time in our state it was strange. What I meant here is so many things are going to happen, some of us may think it is strange or it is new but I don't think so, it is all about matter of time. What happened in the west in the past will be happened to our land too. Those men and women who would like to get married again should not be considered it simply or should not abuse it just like it happened to the other countries and states too. It will be a long article to explain it. For example some countries the husbands take the responsibility of financial support of the children when they got divorce. To change the partner is acceptable instead of suffering physical and psychological harassment from their spouses and families. We also should not be serious to get married a woman or man who are not virgin most important thing is like mindedness.
T P Meitei
This article is very interesting sister Sanatombi. There are lot of reasons for the estrange relationship between husbands and wives. The main cause of women desert her first husband is the immaturity of the women who are thinking only for physical and mental pleasures. According to our Indian value system, women is the creators who sacrifice whole her life for the family, for the kids and husband.So, women is the embodiment of mother nature, creators, peace, calm and sacrifice for the family.That is why many Hindu deities are female goddess like Lakshmi, Saraswati, Durga, Kali, Prithi Mata etc in honour of women. Every women can't have the ideal of many idealistic women. But, by reading some rules and norm followed by the scholars about the duty of an ideal wife will be helpful in suppressing the animate instincts of the women and men. Men by nature are wild and cruel. If the women behave in the same manner of violent husband, there will not be peace. At the time of the marriage, the wife garlands husband with the meaning of sacrificing everything for the husband. Then husband return half with the meaning of giving autonomy on behalf of the unity of the soul. Such inner meaning of the marriage is not known by any life partners.If marriage is made on the consideration of physical pleasure and material satisfaction, it use to break up with divorce. Our Indian sanctity of marriage inherited from the forefather is diluted over the years when we imbibe the western value system. It is found that the one who is highly educated in the western education, he fails to understand who he is. I have many friends who study outside north east. They have bookish knowledge regarding the national and international level. When it come to the local north eastern history, politics, ethnic diversity, science, geography, geology and GK of the north east, they are completely blank. They even don't try to understand their customs and tradition. They use to discard the traditional value system which make them survive till today. Such people have brought red light morality of the west to our sacred social marriage institutions. The system of children brought up by single parents of west is slowly percolating down from higher class educated family to the lower class uneducated families. The child bring up in such condition develop a deviant behaviour. It is a great cost to the society. So, for promoting the sanctity of marriage across the community, the following points is put for your consideration: 1. Let the husband and wife know the meaning of marriage, 2. Let the wife read some books like Lakshmi Charitra, Immoinu Ahongbi, Mistress Knag Bang Sok of Korea that mentioned the duty of an ideal wife in a family, 3. Let the wife engaged in some creative productive works so that they may divert their attention from physical pleasures, 4. Providing awareness camp and counselling facility to the couples right from marriage date to the settled family live, 5. Listening to the Mahabharat series cassette in Manipur that can somewhat enlighten the listeners, 6. The syndrome of the impotency among the young husband due to strong psychological pressure in pursue of higher class material lives can be treated by psychologist and civil societies, 7. A training in pursue of the contentment lives may also be provided to the young couple, 8. The arrange marriage that take into account about the suitability of the live partners for the young lovers also be helpful in containing high divorce rate, 9. The physical check up of the women by the medical expert to determined the degree of exited nature and accordingly their life partnership can be made, 10. The husband must always in touch with the wife even husband is far away so that she should always remembers, 11. The husband in order to avoid such shame, choose good character ideal wife; because bad character is very hard to change.
woman
It is completely a matter of choice if a women choose to stay in a marriage or not.whether her husband is providing for her or not.we live in a hypocritical society where society always tends to point finger on the women because they think that the men can commit mistakes and will be forgiven, he can have flings with other women, moreover he can treat his wife badly and these things are justifyable because he earns for the family.Perhaps this kind of orthodox beliefs need to change an perhaps next time we can get an article on "A curious case of missing Husbands"
Zen
Add to that the Shitty Restaurant love culture mushrooming in dark cabins that reminds you of things no less than brothelry. starting as young as the age of 16 or even less. Gullibility is an outdated virtue these days , Caution frens , dont step on trash. no pun intended
niroda singam
this is the stupidest article i have ever read.
Purna mishra
Its true n i like dis article very much,I do appreciates d writter very much.While I compared d status of women of manipur;manipur women are far better than d others countries ladies.But in case if we fail to check it timely,may be ruin by d western style of life more to our states too.It became more harmful than d virus especially to d mens who r out of home for earning wages to support d family by leaving their wives. Dis stages became a critical,doubtful cases among our society.
