“If boys can, why girls can’t,” this is one of the most positively set but negatively explained statement of the last decade. Feeling proud in doing something what’s beyond your orbit is always something to fill your diary, but leaving the reality just because you are capable of more will take you nowhere.
Over the time, every nook and cranny, wherever I see the definition of feminism – I have never seen any two definitions similar. The meaning of feminism is so much perspective based, the hide and seek between justice and equality keep going on, but all knows it will never be balanced. I am really tired of these lines, “I can wear whatever I want.” More and more girls are getting into it. As a man, even I or no one for that matter can wear whatever we/they want. But if only they want to take down the barriers, they should also be open to getting anything receivable with no complains. Saying so, I am not hereby encouraging on teasing girls or any physical trespassing, but yelling back to those who even stares at you? Girl! That’s nothing but a bucket full of egos. Wear what’s comfortable, then there will be less watching you with hunger.
To hold the truth, feminism should be something that comes from femininity. But most that’s on trend now are all the accumulation of the masculinity. To push it with the simpler words, all the wars and the mess that’s happening in this world is all because of the uncontrolled masculinity but what’s seen or believed as peace has always been the by-product of femininity. Doing what boys can’t is always better than doing what boys can. That’s the easiest way to go about. Cutting hair short, wearing shorts, no-make ups, being rude and being crazy to be like a man has become the trend for most of the feminist in the market.
You won’t believe this but 7 out of 10 women in India cheats on their husband. This is from an article published in business standards on April 23, 2019. Women now have dating sites made only for women called Gleeden, and to the top of all surprise, ¾ of the women there are married women. Now coming to the old saying, “In going forward for any relationship, man always make the first move,” but things have gone too far. With the coming up of the dating apps like bumble, the egos have reach the brim. To make it easy for all the ages, bumble is an online dating app more or like tinder, just that women make the first move, only you can text to a woman after she texts first. And most of the women see that as an improvement in the women empowerment. If that is women empowerment, we are going to the world war 3, not between Iran and USA but between men and women.
To all the understandings that I have had till now, something different should never be compared and never to be judged from a common frame of reference.
Women trying to be like men is now the current definition of feminism, which is doing nothing more than killing their identity.
If I am asked for the righteous sight of mine, I wish masculinity or crazy feminist is not what’s needed in this world right now but femininity. Men should stop getting stuck with the overrated masculinity, we all should just learn the art of being feminine. And to clear it up, being into femininity is not about acting like a female or dressing like females but inculcating the peace loving and the power of patience ladies have. If inculcated, war is just nothing but a word for the history. To all the men, it’s okay cry and give up on being a stone cold person. To all the women, cutting short hair won’t make you a man, it just makes you use less shampoo – nothing more than that.
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