Birkarnelzelzit Thiyam
Most of my time in life, I have always been alone but hardly I could remember any day that I felt lonely. Yes, you might have been alone for the last several years, but never lonely. Loneliness is a sign of depression, being alone is a sign of strength and individual awakening. And when you are alone – you start speaking to your ultimate you; which is the first step of getting stronger. Because he who masters himself has already conquered his greatest enemy.
When you practise being alone–you will master the power of detachment. Go and involve with everyone but do not get attached with anyone. No one is your’s, you are no one’s. Being alone will increase your attention. If you're sensibly attentive, you learn by just looking, if you're not sensible you learn by getting thrashed. Life will thrash you !
The feeling of "being lonely" is a strong signal that you can’t be happy alone. It doesn’t matter how you walk, as far as your spiritual process is concerned, anyway you are alone, nobody is with you.
Again, with all the busy stats in this crowded world–do you think we can possibly be alone ? We are always contacted to get connected. Nikola Tesla said, “Be alone—that is the secret of invention: be alone, that is when ideas are born,” but can we really find that alone time nowadays ? Being alone allows you to be with your own thoughts and discover your own voice not when being lonely.
It is in these moments of solitude where you discover your true identity and means of expression. You are free from any interruptions or outside opinions. It is just your own voice.
The power of being alone should not be dismissed. Unfortunately, our culture has transformed the idea of being alone into some sort of eccentricity that the well-adjusted individual shouldn’t experience.
In this case, we are talking about being alone and not being lonely, although it seems the distinction has been blurred. Yet solitude has much to offer in all facets of our lives and a conscious effort should be made by every individual to experience it regularly.
Creativity flourishes in solitude. It allows you to dive into ideas, focus on problems, think outside the box, and reach deep within yourself and your imagination in a way that is not possible around others.
At the same time, solitude provides you with the perfect opportunity to be with yourself and truly understand who you are. Being alone with your thoughts can reveal a lot about you that you otherwise wouldn’t realize.
Gaining this deeper understanding of yourself will help you in all facets of your life. And not only for yourself, but for others as well. The better you know yourself, the better you are able to be a partner, friend, and person in all other relationships. Furthermore, this understanding can be applied to anything you are dealing with: your fears, your struggles, your demons–anything can be realized with some alone time for you to think.
A great part of solitude is that it also gives you a chance to relax and recover from your day to day stresses. We don’t realize the toll our day may take on us. Our daily commute, sleep routines, distractions, people, and so much more all have an invisible impact on our lives. Over time, this can beat us down: break your will, your inspiration, and your beliefs.
Getting away from it all allows you to break the cycle and recover from your typical routine. It allows you to ground yourself, re-discover your goals, and remind yourself what’s important in your life. Having this space will make it all more easier to be ready to get back to the grind when you return.
I know it’s hard to find time for ourselves now-a-days but trust me – whenever you get to be alone, never forget to talk with yourself to know where you stand.
The writer is a major in International Business Marketing from Algonquin College, Ottawa, Canada. He can be reached at
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