A woman-Does she need fixing ?
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Zena Singh
Contd from previous issue
Here too does a woman face challenges because as stated by Murdock in her book : ….. “ the path ..is not easy…it is a journey that seldom receives validation from the outside world, in fact the outer world often sabotages and interferes with it”
There is unfortunately no open, warm welcoming support as expected; even in the same community of Women who are supposedly traveling along this same Journey. Instead there’s often Exclusion, Inspection and even jabs of Judgement.
‘Women do have a quest at this time……. it is the quest to fully embrace their feminine nature, learning how to value themselves as women and to heal the deep wound of the feminine. It is a very important inner journey toward being a fully integrated, balanced and whole human being..” Maureen Murdock.
Our lives have stories, stories we live through and stories we learn from. Our stories however, have been narrated for us by others, who have had their own view of who we are and how we should be in the world. It can take a life time to unravel those voices that echo inside our minds, to turn off the ringing echoes and start playing our own tunes.
Our stories are our path. They don’t define us but they do shape us. We can honour them for who they have helped us become. We can recognize that our journey has been made more beautiful and precious by even each flawed step along the way.
A kind of fear has long been ingrained deeply into the lives of women. Stories have been told , heard of, even seen down the ages of how women have been shut out, killed, burnt at stake for being heard, being seen, for having free thought, for having passion in a conservative world, for taking up space not meant to be theirs.
All attention has been drawn mainly on how we look, sound, what we wear, our dress size , infact anyone famous even who dares to gain weight, all equally shamed instantly.
“You can never leave footprints that last if you are always walking on tip toe” Leymah Gbowee
As women we have work to do in the world. Important work. We are here to make a contribution, to teach, to lead, nurture and create.
To be the Women we were born to be.
Though many of us have been raised in different times, different cultural narratives , no matter how long it takes or how we come to it – we need to work towards becoming women unto ourselves. Owning our Power, Passion and Presence.
We need to own the power we have and claim it. That’s the essence. It’s who we are and what we do. It should remain with us in every circumstance of our lives.
In saying sorry without needing to – In Finding ourselves saying ‘Yes’ when we mean to say ‘No’ or staying silent when in actuality we want to scream – In taking on extra work when we already have a loadful – In excusing bad behavior by letting people off too easily – In making compromises leading us to diminish ourselves – In holding on to a wrong relationship or a Job that we’ve outgrown- In pushing aside our dreams to keep other people comfortable in theirs.
I conclude with substantiation that ..
A Woman is as Strong as she is Soft
A Woman is as Resilient as she is Vulnerable
A Woman is as Fierce as she is Afraid
A Woman is as Spirited as she is Anxious
A Woman is as much a Go-getter as she faces Hindrances
A Woman is as much a Champion as she hits Defeat
A Woman is as much Tenacious as she may lose her grip
In all of this stands the truth that a Woman need not be fixed. For one so perfectly put together by her creator is not for man to de-construct. She is enough just as she is; Beautiful in all of her femininity.
The writer can be reached at [email protected] )
Contd from previous issue
Here too does a woman face challenges because as stated by Murdock in her book : ….. “ the path ..is not easy…it is a journey that seldom receives validation from the outside world, in fact the outer world often sabotages and interferes with it”
There is unfortunately no open, warm welcoming support as expected; even in the same community of Women who are supposedly traveling along this same Journey. Instead there’s often Exclusion, Inspection and even jabs of Judgement.
‘Women do have a quest at this time……. it is the quest to fully embrace their feminine nature, learning how to value themselves as women and to heal the deep wound of the feminine. It is a very important inner journey toward being a fully integrated, balanced and whole human being..” Maureen Murdock.
Our lives have stories, stories we live through and stories we learn from. Our stories however, have been narrated for us by others, who have had their own view of who we are and how we should be in the world. It can take a life time to unravel those voices that echo inside our minds, to turn off the ringing echoes and start playing our own tunes.
Our stories are our path. They don’t define us but they do shape us. We can honour them for who they have helped us become. We can recognize that our journey has been made more beautiful and precious by even each flawed step along the way.
A kind of fear has long been ingrained deeply into the lives of women. Stories have been told , heard of, even seen down the ages of how women have been shut out, killed, burnt at stake for being heard, being seen, for having free thought, for having passion in a conservative world, for taking up space not meant to be theirs.
All attention has been drawn mainly on how we look, sound, what we wear, our dress size , infact anyone famous even who dares to gain weight, all equally shamed instantly.
“You can never leave footprints that last if you are always walking on tip toe” Leymah Gbowee
As women we have work to do in the world. Important work. We are here to make a contribution, to teach, to lead, nurture and create.
To be the Women we were born to be.
Though many of us have been raised in different times, different cultural narratives , no matter how long it takes or how we come to it – we need to work towards becoming women unto ourselves. Owning our Power, Passion and Presence.
We need to own the power we have and claim it. That’s the essence. It’s who we are and what we do. It should remain with us in every circumstance of our lives.
In saying sorry without needing to – In Finding ourselves saying ‘Yes’ when we mean to say ‘No’ or staying silent when in actuality we want to scream – In taking on extra work when we already have a loadful – In excusing bad behavior by letting people off too easily – In making compromises leading us to diminish ourselves – In holding on to a wrong relationship or a Job that we’ve outgrown- In pushing aside our dreams to keep other people comfortable in theirs.
I conclude with substantiation that ..
A Woman is as Strong as she is Soft
A Woman is as Resilient as she is Vulnerable
A Woman is as Fierce as she is Afraid
A Woman is as Spirited as she is Anxious
A Woman is as much a Go-getter as she faces Hindrances
A Woman is as much a Champion as she hits Defeat
A Woman is as much Tenacious as she may lose her grip
In all of this stands the truth that a Woman need not be fixed. For one so perfectly put together by her creator is not for man to de-construct. She is enough just as she is; Beautiful in all of her femininity.
The writer can be reached at [email protected] )